We all want to be in healthy, happy, balanced relationships. Despite our best efforts, we can end up in a relationship that can do us more harm than good. Here are a few key ways to save yourself a lot of pain and heartache in the long run:
- Tune into your intuition, which is beyond your thoughts and feelings. To do this, it helps to be still; by meditating or going for a walk in nature. For example, to allow your mind to be still enough to hear what your intuition is saying. It may be telling you that this relationship is not right for you. Your intuition is your internal guidance system, guiding you on your path through life.
- Give space to those around you when they are having a reaction (that is very strong in emotions disproportionate to the event). Space and time support them in exploring their feelings. They may want to talk it over with you, or they may need to be by themselves.
- Create a boundary when you feel uncomfortable or intuitively that things are not “right” in the relationship. Your intuition is an important guide to keeping yourself safe.
- Don’t energetically “take on”, others emotions that don’t belong to you—this is called co-dependancy. It is possible to be empathetic without taking on others feelings and emotions.
- Develop the skills to manage your energy. Observing and accepting your feelings and acting on them from choice rather than reacting, helps you to feel emotionally stable. Sometimes, when you act out your unstable emotions, you can hurt others, and they can react back, hurting you, thus escalating the conflict.
- Recognise and address conflict in the early phases when it is easier to resolve. Deal with conflict (if possible) by sitting down and discussing it in person.
- Practice being in a loving state with others—soft, kind and gentle. Avoid saying contentious things that may create a reaction.