How to Ignite Your Relationship

man carries girlfriend on back while woman kissing on cheek
by Blisspot Wellbeing

Estimated reading time: 2 1/2 minutes

At the beginning of romance, naturally, we feel very connected and present to our partners, due to the liverance phase of the relationship. In this phase, all we can see is the good and how connected we are to our partner. Over time, however, couples can drift apart due to the many different influences on their relationship. Things such as careers, financial pressures, children, external family, childhood patterns and growing in different directions can all have a huge effect on the quality of the connection between partners.

Research has shown that 65% of married couples break up within a 40 year period. Interestingly, according to National Centre for Health Statistics, 46% of second marriages in the United States, end within the first ten years. Ongoing relationship issues occur because people take themselves into the next relationship—all of their thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviours!

Unless we change, things are unlikely to change.  Reconnecting with the self by doing inner work and changing our perspective, is exciting and powerful. Knowing yourself allows you to see things more clearly, rather than through your layers and defences. From a place of stability and clarity, you are better able to create stable and meaningful relationships based on love rather than fear.

When we put love first in our relationships, our whole focus changes. Relationships, constantly nurtured with love, will open up and flourish. In many cases, we may think we are putting love first. In reality, our real priority regarding our actions can be our careers, money, families, friends and the children. We can be with our partners but not be with our partners. Physically, we can be right next to our partner, but our mind and heart are elsewhere.

couple cuddling

Ways to put love first include:

  1. Schedule a few times a day to text, email or phone call—it only takes minutes, yet maintains a beautiful, loving connection between you.
  2. Spending time with each other without the phone or any other electronic distractions. Actions speak louder than words.
  3. Communicating about your day with your partner at the end of the day, if you have not been together.
  4. Date nights and romantic weekends away.
  5. Showing appreciation with kinds words and deeds. Gratitude and appreciation are the languages of the soul.

When we are there for our partners, present with our awareness and attention, the quality of our relationships can improve dramatically.

Having processes and tools, such as being able to observe our thoughts and emotions, rather than act out on them, are valuable skills regarding maintaining a golden connection between you and your partner.

The more present we are towards our energy fluctuations, the more present and stable we will be with our partners. The more stable and non-judgmental we are (with healthy boundaries), the more we assist others on their journey.

To discover more about relationships see: Love Now eCourse

Sign Up For Free

Leave a Comment

Share via
Copy link
Powered by Social Snap