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We mostly want to feel love and to be loved. This can be a challenge to all of us as it is common to struggle in our relationships. Often it is our romantic relationships can present the greatest challenges as all. According to the National Centre for Health Statistics, 65% of married couples break up over a 40 year period and 46% of second marriages in the United States, end within the first ten years. Love is a feeling and to feel comfortable and loving, we need to feel comfortable with all our feelings.
Otherwise, the ones we are not so comfortable with such as anger, sadness and hurt can take us by surprise, and we can unconsciously act them out in our relationship. It is helpful to be able to accept and validate our and our partner’s feelings, so they flow freely through our energetic system in a natural and harmless way.
Men sometimes were not “allowed” to feel as readily as women when they were younger. They were taught to be strong and to put on a brave front when they felt emotions such as sadness. This is at the expense of retaining the ability to observe and allow their emotions to flow.
What allows our emotions to flow is the ability to observe them in a non-judgemental way—that is, without labelling them as being good or bad. Being taught to repress emotions while growing up is what leads to adult males feeling emotionally disconnected and not as in tune with their emotions as they could be.
Many women, too when growing up were given the message that the most difficult emotions such as anger, fear, sadness, hurt and disappointment were not OK to be widely expressed. Instead, it was important to smile and look happy which had the result of a disconnection to how they were feeling inside.
The ability to tune into, process and express emotions keeps us emotionally healthy. Emotions means energy in motion. Love and compassion are emotions, and are the foundation of a safe and harmonious world. When we start to value these qualities at a deep level, our world will advance in a major way.
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