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We all know how important self-worth is. You don’t have to be a scientist to realise that the way you perceive yourself, the way the world will perceive you.
Success goes hand in hand with one’s healthy self-worth. I say healthy, as there can be a fine line where self-worth becomes one of the attributes of an ego-driven personality. Where healthy self-worth turns into attention seeking and demanding ‘unhealthy’ narcissism or self-centeredness. This is not a way to success and can be a pitfall to someone who is unaware.
However, today I am not going to talk about increasing your ego, but rather the sense of the self-worth of your real being which is stable, nurturing, kind and loving.
To understand the traps of ego domination, I’ll give you some insights. The egotistical person loves to be in the centre of attention, feel important and be in charge of others or, in other words, manipulative. They appear powerful, but they are not. When you follow celebrities, you can see how often their self – worth turns into their fall as maintaining the ever-increasing demands of ego is hard. To achieve success and then be a slave to it requires a lot of energy.
Success can become unhealthy, and when ego takes over, it can lead to drug-taking, self-pity, and other degrading activities. The unhealthy self-worth (or toxic pride) of ego is something that is not going to last or make someone happy. Ego is of an animal nature, based on emotions and is too quick to turn and so a sense of stability is something that ego can’t ever give you.
Not only can ego give you a false sense of increased self-worth, but it can also give you an unhealthily low sense of self-worth. This is harmful not only to you but also others around you.
The true source of success, health and happiness comes from the higher Self and not from the ego. Your higher or spiritual Self is your real you… so never settle for less. Once you see this, it will transform the way you look at life, people and most importantly, you.
A positive perception of yourself is key to increasing your self-worth. The more connection you can find with your higher Self, the more self-worth you will establish. Once you know that you are an eternal being and not just an appearance in this temporary temple (a body), you will find your way to developing an appreciation for of everything that you are and compassion towards all of your shortcomings.
You are worthy and have always been beyond understanding of your mind. This is something that you have to uncover every single day, bit by bit. Everything gets noted in the universe, your successes and errors. You make the way.
3 Simple Tips to Increase Your Self-Worth:
Stop that negative thinking
The feeling of self-doubt can overtake you unexpectedly. Somebody may say something or some unforeseen event may happen. Ego likes to make you believe that your thoughts are YOU. However, this is not true. We pick up thoughts in the form of energy and in the way we are being; we have access to thought from the energy field to which we belong.
So when you feel some thoughts of a negative nature try to enter your mind, don’t let them in. I know this may be hard to do as it requires a high degree of awareness, but from the start, let them go past you without any attachment or involvement and don’t claim them as your own. Refer to them as the thoughts that have nothing to do with you. View them as just data passing through your mind and don’t get any desire to entertain them.
Ego loves suffering and loves thinking. Thinking is what it thrives on, especially negative thinking. The more drama it can create, the more entertaining it is, and so it gets a lot of pleasure out of being a victim being unworthy, being ‘poor me’, being ‘look how bad all is, nobody likes me, nobody wants me’ and so on.
Catch this tendency early enough and be honest. Did you ask for these thoughts in the first place? You didn’t, I’m sure, they just entered your mind. If you didn’t ask for them, don’t claim them as yours. Be strong and train yourself. The brain is made for thinking, yet you are more than just a brain, you are master of you.
Connect with your Higher Self
Through gaining knowledge about your higher (spiritual) Self, you will be able to develop a close and strong connection. Higher Self is connected to the Higher Divine Power (or you may call God). This Higher Power makes you worthy no matter what. It is the real source of your life.
The easiest way to get to it is through some simple ways of being with yourself and others. For example, the feeling of appreciation is incredibly powerful. Some people have a lot of misunderstanding about the feeling of unconditional love, as many confuse it with personal love (attachment, owning or controlling) and it is not the same. Unconditional love toward yourself and all life is the ultimate shortcut to connection with the Higher Power.
Use practical and simple methods.
There are many practical methods you can use to develop the sense of self-worth. It depends on the situation; so many times people become very passive when they hit the feeling of self-doubt. Simple things like a daily exercise alter the chemistry of your mind and body and uplift you, making you feel worthy right away. Never underestimate the simple and practical approaches to developing a healthy body and mind. A healthy body is a healthy mind, and a healthy mind is obedient to the amazing, real, higher Self. With the support of your strong body, mind, and ‘spiritual will’, you become unstoppable and very powerful indeed.
Self-worth becomes your second nature. It is healthy and uplifts others too. An amazing tool for connecting to your spiritual Self is meditation. It can be challenging to start with as so often people can’t master the mind or themselves. It is true training for your mind and increases your self-worth and intelligence. In the beginning, I felt frustrated. However, I was so desperate to succeed that I didn’t give up. Once mastered, now I’m looking forward to it every day. It is an amazing experience.
Self-worth is something that is natural and has been given to you as a gift. Treasure, nurture and appreciate it. Be kind and forgiving not only to others but also to yourself. Through love, kindness, gratitude and forgiveness, self-worth presents itself with such grace, elegance and ease every single time. Find and use positive affirmations. Use anything that helps you every time self-doubt sets in.
Lift up your mood and surrender to the Higher Power. Go ahead and use the tips. You will be amazed of your great newly found self-worth, my friend.