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Most adults deeply desire to have fulfilling, loving relationships with others. It is very difficult in a relationship to give away more than what you have yourself. If you don’t feel worthy, loving and respectful of yourself, it makes it harder to feel that way towards others and to receive love.
We may not feel deeply loving and respectful of and towards ourselves. In this case, it’s helpful to accept our authentic feelings; we cannot heal something until we accept it. Denial is when we have an issue or a problem but choose to ignore it, which keeps us stuck in the same old problems.
Denial also has its purpose—as sometimes we are not ready to face our issues. Denial may occur when we are afraid of our unexplored emotions. We also may instinctively know that we may have a good toolbox of skills or the right emotional support to help us in our journey until we feel healed and whole once more.
Sometimes it is appropriate to respect others’ denial with unconditional love, as nobody knows their inner world better than they do.
Being empowered, loving, respectful and feeling worthy is our natural state. If we do not feel this way, it is because of the beliefs that we have adopted and taken on as our truth or story.
We would never consciously take on these beliefs where we feel unworthy, unloved or disrespected. Most of these beliefs are taken on when we put our power “out there” and think that other people know better than us. Often, we are conditioned to believe this is true if we grew up in an environment where our opinions and ideas were not valued.
Conditioning is where we are continuously exposed to the same idea or belief and take it on as our own. For example, if our mother repeatedly taught us that men are not to be trusted (and this can be passed on energetically), we might grow up believing that all men aren’t to be trusted, giving us a distorted view of the world. What we believe is reflected back to us in life; our beliefs determine our reality.
When we transcend our conditioning based on our limiting beliefs, we can rise above living in a fearful way and instead rest in peace and love.
It is important to note that the people in our lives have conditioned us with the best of intentions. The people that love us have a whole range of influences and conditioning that have also influenced them as well. We are all doing the best we can with the skills that we have at the time.
The only sin is ignorance.
~ Buddha
With widespread stress, anxiety, depression, drugs, divorce, violence, and alcoholism, mankind is searching for new ways to live a peaceful and fulfilling life. This has never been truer when it comes to having a deep connection with our romantic partners.
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