We all want to be in healthy, happy, balanced relationships. Despite our best efforts, we can end up in a relationship that can do us more harm than good. Here are a few key ways to save yourself a lot of pain and heartache in the long run.
1. Tune into your intuition
Your intuition is beyond your thoughts and feelings. To do this, it helps to be still; by meditating or going for a walk in nature. For example, to allow your mind to be still enough to hear what your intuition is saying. It may be telling you that this relationship is not right for you. Your intuition is your internal guidance system, guiding you on your path through life.
2. Give space
Step back and allow space for someone when they are having a reaction (that is very strong in emotions disproportionate to the event). Space and time will support them to process their uncomfortable feelings and work out what is going on for them. After they have had the time to get to the root cause of their issue, they may want to talk it over with you, or they may need to be by themselves.
3. Create a boundary
Set healthy boundaries when you feel uncomfortable or intuitively that things are not right in the relationship. Your intuition is an important guide to keeping yourself safe.
4. Do not take on, others emotions
When you are open and sensitive it is possible to take on others emotions that don’t belong to you—this is called co-dependency. It is possible to be supportive and empathetic without taking on others feelings and emotions. When you have processed you emotions first and feel clear, it is possible to do this.
5. Manage your energy
When you observe and accept your feelings it will allow you to act on them from choice, rather than from a reactive place. This will help you to feel emotionally stable. It is possible to hurt others when you act out on unstable emotions, and they can react back, hurting you, thus escalating the conflict.
6. Recognise and address conflict
When conflict is small, that is, in the early phases, it is easier to resolve. Deal with conflict if possible, by sitting down and discussing it in person as soon as you can.
7. Practice being in a loving state
When you are with others—practice being soft, kind and gentle. Avoid saying contentious things that may create a reaction.