The whole world is about people and how you bond with them.
People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel
~ Maya Angelou
If you try to make others feel good, they will want to to the same with you. Starting with those near—how do you behave with the people nearest to you?
Starting with your family, how do you react towards them? Are you often angry or lighthearted? If you find yourself losing your temper too often, that would be a great place to start working on in order to build solid relationships.
Techniques to calm yourself include:
1. Taking a few minutes away from the situation
2. Talking about it calmly with the person involved.
3. Focusing on your breath
If you have children, behaving appropriately and pleasantly is best, since kids instinctively mimic how you behave. You want your children to grow up joyously, working in harmony with those around them, so they could build their own great sense of self.
When you leave home, say hello to people meet to create a connection of warmth. Smile and talk cheerfully with those around you. When you meet friends there, enquire about them before you talk about yourself. Nourish all that you meet with love and kindness.
As for me, I frequently visit stores in my local neighbourhood and everyone knows me. This is what building a community is all about. I am always cheerful and positive with them. I have found, that because of our positive bond they want to offer me their best products as a token of their affection. When bonding favourably with the people, you see every day has an upside.
I recently visited my aunt who lives a long distance away from our home. Last time I visited her, we struck a lively and jolly conversation. At the end, she handed me a big deep blue decorative bag as a gift which I still use today for grocery shopping. When I last visited her, I gave her a bangle set from the U.S, which she loved. All her three daughters are staying abroad and so when I visit her, I fill up a space in her heart and she treats me like her daughter.
There are examples of people like this everywhere in our lives. We just need to know how to connect with them positively. You never know who you will need in a time of crisis. So remember to smile at people and bond gracefully and above all, make them feel good in a way they will love and remember you.
~ by Rosina S Khan