~ 𝗪𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐥𝐲 𝗪𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 ~⁠
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I am coaching an amazing woman at the moment who has found this out the hard way.⁠
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There were some people around her that were 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐚𝐝𝐥𝐲... 🤨taking advantage of her and, being downright rude to her face.⁠
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She stayed silent.⁠
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She allowed it to happen hoping it wouldn't happen again.⁠
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It happened again.⁠
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And again.⁠
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And again.⁠
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And it 𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐲𝐞𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐫 as the bad behaviour continued, more boundaries were crossed and it turned from nastiness to down-right bullying.⁠
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Now I am helping her to rebuild her confidence and take back control.⁠
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Staying silent will sometimes indicate to people that you have nothing to say but usually, we have something to say but we refrain from saying it - out of 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫... out of 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲 what people might think... or from a 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬.⁠
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We don't want to rock the boat.⁠
We don't want to upset the other person.⁠
We don't want to look stupid by saying something wrong.⁠
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And sometimes we think staying silent is the answer but we need to question whether this gives us control or makes us a target.⁠
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Have the 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐮𝐩.⁠
Have the 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭.⁠
Have the c𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 for people in place.⁠
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That much you deserve!⁠
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x Jodie