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I am coaching an amazing woman at the moment who has found this out the hard way.โ
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There were some people around her that were ๐๐๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ฒ... ๐คจtaking advantage of her and, being downright rude to her face.โ
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She stayed silent.โ
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She allowed it to happen hoping it wouldn't happen again.โ
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It happened again.โ
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And again.โ
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And again.โ
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And it ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ก๐๐ซ as the bad behaviour continued, more boundaries were crossed and it turned from nastiness to down-right bullying.โ
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Now I am helping her to rebuild her confidence and take back control.โ
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Staying silent will sometimes indicate to people that you have nothing to say but usually, we have something to say but we refrain from saying it - out of ๐๐๐๐ซ... out of ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ซ๐ฒ what people might think... or from a ๐ฅ๐๐๐ค ๐จ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ฌ.โ
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We don't want to rock the boat.โ
We don't want to upset the other person.โ
We don't want to look stupid by saying something wrong.โ
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And sometimes we think staying silent is the answer but we need to question whether this gives us control or makes us a target.โ
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Have the ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐๐ค ๐ฎ๐ฉ.โ
Have the ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ง๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ.โ
Have the c๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ฌ for people in place.โ
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That much you deserve!โ
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x Jodie