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Lately, my boyfriend and I hardly talk during the day while we're apart. I message him but he always seems disinterested until we're actually together. 

How can I improve our communication so that there's no difference between talking online and in real life? Or is my problem that he just isn't interested in me?

Posted By Lotte Barnes in Relationships on September 7, 2017

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    Relationships are really hard work and even in the strongest partnerships, you will experience times of turbulence and difficulty. However, it should be BOTH of you making the effort everyday to nurture and strengthen your bond everyday, not just one of you. 

    Maybe though the reason your boyfriend is retracting is because he's really busy (at work/university etc.). You could be confusing stress with disinterest. If this is the case, I think it may help to try and understand him and support him with compassion and love. 

    If you don't think that's the case, it may help to confront him (gently but with assertion) about the issue. From personal experience, open communication is VITAL - it has the ability to make or break a relationship. Allow him to answer openly and actively listen to him without judgement or anger. 

    Good luck!!

    Sandra Pullman on September 14, 2017

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